Ahhh yes, money...such a thing in this life, isn't it? I've spent time since I moved to Jamaica getting familiar with my relationship and beliefs around money and I feel that I am finally in the right place about it for myself. I left a successful career in public education in California after 20 years and the retirement that I took with me to Jamaica is long gone. I remember a time when I would measure my success and inner peace based on the number in my bank account and I have found freedom in letting that way of measuring go. I am not in a financial place to travel or send money to my friends and family (or even buy gifts very often) and I have found my peace with this because I know that the one constant in this life is change. Living a simple life without extra has helped me to see the value in what really matters to me and has also helped me to learn that contentment is a practice not a destination (and contentment cannot be cultivated whilst wanting for something else or wishing for something to be different). Thank you for your vulnerability with this writing and I'm sending you good vibes for your evolving relationship with money. 🌈🙏 I'm also going to hit that subscribe button now! 🤗
Something unrelated, but I absolutely would love to visit Jamaica one day. I have it on my vision board!!! ☺️ I thank you deeply for making time to read my words and write this beautiful comment, being equally vulnerable.
I am slowly starting to measure my happiness by the taste of food on my plate, my family and friends, flowers growing in the garden, the tea in my cup, if I can make someone smile, if I can help them 🍵🌞 thank you for sharing this wisdom with me 💞🙏💞
financial crisis definitely do bring you worries and problems. Although i am still an undergraduate, not independent obv, i still get, you might say out of pride yes, i hesitate asking my parents for money if exhausted before month beginnings. I've infact once, when i ran out of my monthly money, living in delhi, with like some 100rupee bankbalance, literally survived on my hostel food, no junks, no travelling, nothing. I was able to save that 100 for like almost a fortnight. It actually taught me good things. I suddenly felt grown up enough , to save 100 rupee?? naa but to actually have build patience, that if you make something in your mind, that you do not have to do this in any condition, you do not. There is no chance you could do that.
Morever, i'm so happy seeing your page grow. I don't know you personally but i've followed your words way more than i've any other book. There's something very different with your words. Infact i made your post about your mother's birthday read to my mumma; who herself writes books. She literally grinned throughout. Your words are your wings. Fly high.
Karnika! Thank you so much for sharing your story! It's really impressive how you managed to get by on just 100 rupees for two weeks in Delhi. That shows a lot of strength and patience. You should be proud of yourself for getting through that tough time.
I'm really happy to hear you like my page. It means a lot to me that my words connect with you. Knowing that you shared my post about my mom’s birthday with your mum and that it made her smile really made my day.
Thanks for your kind words and support. I’ll keep trying my best to create content that makes people happy. Keep being strong and determined. You’ve got a bright future ahead! Fly high and keep shining! 🌟
This post is very fascinating Mohika. In it, you ask questions and answer them; you worry yet I detect clarity as well. That's why I'll tell you that you understand this more than you think.
There are things money can buy, and we'll all feel bad when we cannot have them, even when it's only temporary. Your feelings are actually everybody's feelings when it comes to money.
Generally, in the long run, we'll end up stable enough to not worry about money. These periods of having and not having are important in one main way: they help us appreciate the necessity of something while also letting us see its limitations and that life is much larger to still be full with temporary periods of lack.
Patrick thank you for reading this essay & your comment. I feel you see me. I appreciate your presence & being here. You're right, everyone feels some type of way about money, especially what I have been feeling, at some point or other in our lives. In that sense, we're more connected than we know 🧡
I also have the same love languages for others like you but can’t be bothered about receiving gifts from others 😅
Money is such a fascinating topic. And investing so important. I also refuse to touch my long term goals and made sure I lay back my student loans before they were due, it meant sacrifice short term but long term it’s so freeing to know I don’t owe anyone anything anymore.
I feel this. It feels like everyone my age is stuck between finding out what they really want to do but also needing money to support their current lives. A lot of my friends (myself included) are partially employed 20somes. Our real passions fill the mornings and very late nights. Some are DJs, others entrepreneurs, and some like me who are writers that want nothing more than to spend their lives telling the stories trapped in their heads.
I think this part of life is all ambiguity and no answers. And I’m learning that is quite alright.
I feel this too. You kind of got the gist perfectly. Money allows us freedom of choice to move in the world - but there exists a parallel world where we can give and receive without monetary exchange. Just by being. Offering what we have - stories, our look for music, love for food, & receiving in return other people’s love for things they love. Each world comes with it’s own set of issues & woohoos. I want to thank you for making time to read my essay & engage with it. 🧡
Hey Mohika, thank you for being so open and vulnerable about your relationship with money in this piece. Personally my relationship has been kind of similar but I have come to terms on what I feel about money. Like all relationships in world, there are certain aspects we can improve and certain aspects we need to accept. Improvement usually happens after acceptance in any relationship even it applies to your relationship with yourself. Obviously your relationship with money starts from how as a child we have seen adults/parents acting when it comes to money and how the society sees money or people with money or people without money. There are certain things in life money can’t buy like feeling of community, belongingness, kindness, generosity, empathy, love, friendship, emotional support but there are certain things money can buy as you mentioned that makes you happy. If you keep exploring this side of you, you will get better in both money and peace. Sending you big hugs and love 💚
Hey Harneek, I really appreciate your kind words and for being so open with me. It's comforting to know that someone else has been on a similar journey with money. I totally agree that acceptance is where real improvement starts, whether it’s with ourselves or with our finances.
You nailed it about how our upbringing and society shape our views on money. It's such a complicated relationship. And yes, the best things in life, like love and friendship, can’t be bought. Thank you for your encouragement. It really means a lot and gives me a boost to keep working on finding that balance. Sending you big hugs and lots of love right back 🧡
Lack of money does effect the well being.. always does and I know the pride, sometimes ego to extend the hand and ask for something
Thinking the whole burden of everything around u lies on ur shoulders
Thinking oh I fucked this time, and why was I not more careful and planned better with my money
And when u grow with these feelings, lets them grow with u, in ur 40s when u are still struggling with this.. u realize why did I not learn to ask for help, why do I need to be accountable for everyone and everything, why am I always so hard on myself.. how will I manage this now because ofcourse everyone around me thinks I am super women and ofcourse I can handle.. why didn’t I sometimes told people what they are responsible for… why did I not share responsibilities … why why? I know it’s still not too late for me… and it’s not at all late for u… my humble kind advice will be to be ok with not able to do once, it’s ok to share responsibilities, it’s ok to ask for help
Masiiii, your advice to be okay with not doing it all, to share responsibilities, and to ask for help is so on point. It really does make us human. I totally understand what you mean about feeling like everything is on your shoulders and then beating yourself up for not planning better. It's such a tough cycle to break, especially when we've been carrying those feelings for so long.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Masi! It's never too late to learn and grow. Sending you lots of love and gratitude 🧡
Ahhh yes, money...such a thing in this life, isn't it? I've spent time since I moved to Jamaica getting familiar with my relationship and beliefs around money and I feel that I am finally in the right place about it for myself. I left a successful career in public education in California after 20 years and the retirement that I took with me to Jamaica is long gone. I remember a time when I would measure my success and inner peace based on the number in my bank account and I have found freedom in letting that way of measuring go. I am not in a financial place to travel or send money to my friends and family (or even buy gifts very often) and I have found my peace with this because I know that the one constant in this life is change. Living a simple life without extra has helped me to see the value in what really matters to me and has also helped me to learn that contentment is a practice not a destination (and contentment cannot be cultivated whilst wanting for something else or wishing for something to be different). Thank you for your vulnerability with this writing and I'm sending you good vibes for your evolving relationship with money. 🌈🙏 I'm also going to hit that subscribe button now! 🤗
Something unrelated, but I absolutely would love to visit Jamaica one day. I have it on my vision board!!! ☺️ I thank you deeply for making time to read my words and write this beautiful comment, being equally vulnerable.
I am slowly starting to measure my happiness by the taste of food on my plate, my family and friends, flowers growing in the garden, the tea in my cup, if I can make someone smile, if I can help them 🍵🌞 thank you for sharing this wisdom with me 💞🙏💞
financial crisis definitely do bring you worries and problems. Although i am still an undergraduate, not independent obv, i still get, you might say out of pride yes, i hesitate asking my parents for money if exhausted before month beginnings. I've infact once, when i ran out of my monthly money, living in delhi, with like some 100rupee bankbalance, literally survived on my hostel food, no junks, no travelling, nothing. I was able to save that 100 for like almost a fortnight. It actually taught me good things. I suddenly felt grown up enough , to save 100 rupee?? naa but to actually have build patience, that if you make something in your mind, that you do not have to do this in any condition, you do not. There is no chance you could do that.
Morever, i'm so happy seeing your page grow. I don't know you personally but i've followed your words way more than i've any other book. There's something very different with your words. Infact i made your post about your mother's birthday read to my mumma; who herself writes books. She literally grinned throughout. Your words are your wings. Fly high.
Keep growing Mo!
Karnika! Thank you so much for sharing your story! It's really impressive how you managed to get by on just 100 rupees for two weeks in Delhi. That shows a lot of strength and patience. You should be proud of yourself for getting through that tough time.
I'm really happy to hear you like my page. It means a lot to me that my words connect with you. Knowing that you shared my post about my mom’s birthday with your mum and that it made her smile really made my day.
Thanks for your kind words and support. I’ll keep trying my best to create content that makes people happy. Keep being strong and determined. You’ve got a bright future ahead! Fly high and keep shining! 🌟
This post is very fascinating Mohika. In it, you ask questions and answer them; you worry yet I detect clarity as well. That's why I'll tell you that you understand this more than you think.
There are things money can buy, and we'll all feel bad when we cannot have them, even when it's only temporary. Your feelings are actually everybody's feelings when it comes to money.
Generally, in the long run, we'll end up stable enough to not worry about money. These periods of having and not having are important in one main way: they help us appreciate the necessity of something while also letting us see its limitations and that life is much larger to still be full with temporary periods of lack.
Patrick thank you for reading this essay & your comment. I feel you see me. I appreciate your presence & being here. You're right, everyone feels some type of way about money, especially what I have been feeling, at some point or other in our lives. In that sense, we're more connected than we know 🧡
What a tender beautiful share!
I also have the same love languages for others like you but can’t be bothered about receiving gifts from others 😅
Money is such a fascinating topic. And investing so important. I also refuse to touch my long term goals and made sure I lay back my student loans before they were due, it meant sacrifice short term but long term it’s so freeing to know I don’t owe anyone anything anymore.
So proud of you Carmen! Being debt-free, FEELING free makes my toes tap in joy. I'm feeling so happy for you. 🧡
I feel this. It feels like everyone my age is stuck between finding out what they really want to do but also needing money to support their current lives. A lot of my friends (myself included) are partially employed 20somes. Our real passions fill the mornings and very late nights. Some are DJs, others entrepreneurs, and some like me who are writers that want nothing more than to spend their lives telling the stories trapped in their heads.
I think this part of life is all ambiguity and no answers. And I’m learning that is quite alright.
I feel this too. You kind of got the gist perfectly. Money allows us freedom of choice to move in the world - but there exists a parallel world where we can give and receive without monetary exchange. Just by being. Offering what we have - stories, our look for music, love for food, & receiving in return other people’s love for things they love. Each world comes with it’s own set of issues & woohoos. I want to thank you for making time to read my essay & engage with it. 🧡
Nothing is ever broke, you are just in an interesting place ❤️
Life’s playing games with me haha!
Hey Mohika, thank you for being so open and vulnerable about your relationship with money in this piece. Personally my relationship has been kind of similar but I have come to terms on what I feel about money. Like all relationships in world, there are certain aspects we can improve and certain aspects we need to accept. Improvement usually happens after acceptance in any relationship even it applies to your relationship with yourself. Obviously your relationship with money starts from how as a child we have seen adults/parents acting when it comes to money and how the society sees money or people with money or people without money. There are certain things in life money can’t buy like feeling of community, belongingness, kindness, generosity, empathy, love, friendship, emotional support but there are certain things money can buy as you mentioned that makes you happy. If you keep exploring this side of you, you will get better in both money and peace. Sending you big hugs and love 💚
Hey Harneek, I really appreciate your kind words and for being so open with me. It's comforting to know that someone else has been on a similar journey with money. I totally agree that acceptance is where real improvement starts, whether it’s with ourselves or with our finances.
You nailed it about how our upbringing and society shape our views on money. It's such a complicated relationship. And yes, the best things in life, like love and friendship, can’t be bought. Thank you for your encouragement. It really means a lot and gives me a boost to keep working on finding that balance. Sending you big hugs and lots of love right back 🧡
Warmly,
Mo
Lack of money does effect the well being.. always does and I know the pride, sometimes ego to extend the hand and ask for something
Thinking the whole burden of everything around u lies on ur shoulders
Thinking oh I fucked this time, and why was I not more careful and planned better with my money
And when u grow with these feelings, lets them grow with u, in ur 40s when u are still struggling with this.. u realize why did I not learn to ask for help, why do I need to be accountable for everyone and everything, why am I always so hard on myself.. how will I manage this now because ofcourse everyone around me thinks I am super women and ofcourse I can handle.. why didn’t I sometimes told people what they are responsible for… why did I not share responsibilities … why why? I know it’s still not too late for me… and it’s not at all late for u… my humble kind advice will be to be ok with not able to do once, it’s ok to share responsibilities, it’s ok to ask for help
It only makes us human isn’t it
Masiiii, your advice to be okay with not doing it all, to share responsibilities, and to ask for help is so on point. It really does make us human. I totally understand what you mean about feeling like everything is on your shoulders and then beating yourself up for not planning better. It's such a tough cycle to break, especially when we've been carrying those feelings for so long.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Masi! It's never too late to learn and grow. Sending you lots of love and gratitude 🧡