Showing up with an open heart in all your relationships

waves after waves, waves after waves

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waves after waves, waves after waves

Have you ever stood by the ocean, watching waves crash and retreat, crash and retreat? Relationships are a lot like that.

They ebb and flow. Each interaction, a wave that shapes the shoreline of our connections. As a 24-year-old who loves words, fashion, and family, I often find myself pondering the nature of these waves, especially when it comes to what behaviors and actions I value in my relationships.

I deeply appreciate when the people in my life mirror the effort and energy I invest. It’s not about keeping score but more about feeling seen, valued, and understood.

Take my grandmother, for instance. She's my confidante, my rock, my wellspring of wisdom. Our bond is a beautiful exchange of love and respect. I get home from work, and we settle into our living room couch, ready for our daily ritual. I share stories about yoga classes, my hot-take on the latest trends, & especially the mundane details of my workday. She listens with her eyes twinkling.

In return, she shares her world with me. She talks about making lunch, updates me on her friends, and tells random stories that surface in her memory. Our conversation flows effortlessly. A gentle stream weaving through a meadow. We hop from topic to topic, much like bees fluttering from flower to flower.

To think of it, I crave that same kind of reciprocity in all my relationships. Whether it’s friends, family, or with my partner. I value honesty, support, and a willingness to show up. It’s like dressing up for a friend’s themed birthday—everyone has to bring their best self, not just for themselves but for the collective experience.

love love love

Centering, grounding, and revealing.

One way I hold myself accountable is through regular self-check-ins. Just like I make time for yoga and my love for water bodies, I carve out moments to reflect on how I’m showing up in my relationships. Am I being present? Am I listening as much as I’m speaking? Am I offering the same level of support that I seek?

A recent example comes to mind.

I had a falling out with a close friend over something trivial—at least, it seemed trivial at the time. She felt I wasn’t there for her when she needed me, and honestly, she was right.

I was so wrapped up in my own world that I neglected hers. Instead of becoming defensive, I took a step back and reflected. I wrote down my thoughts, just like I do with my journal prompts. I realized I needed to be more mindful of my actions and more considerate of her feelings.

Apologizing and making amends wasn’t easy, but it was necessary. As if adjusting a yoga pose that feels uncomfortable but knowing it will lead to better alignment. I had to realign my intentions and actions with the kind of friend I wanted to be.

It meant being willing to learn, to adapt, and to grow. It meant recognizing when the tide needs to turn and being brave enough to flow with the change.

For example, I’ve been working on being more patient and less reactive. In the past, I had a tendency to jump to conclusions or let my emotions dictate my responses. It was like being a tightly wound spring, ready to snap at the slightest provocation. Now, I practice taking a deep breath, jusssst like in yoga, allowing myself to pause and reflect before reacting. I find my center in chaos. It brings balance and grace. Well, on most days.

This simple act of mindfulness has brought more harmony into my relationships, much like a calm sea after storm. It's beautiful how a small change in approach can turn turbulent waters into a serene, reflective surface.

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You can be vulnerable too.
Share something sweet, spicy, or salty?

Have you ever tried taking a moment to breathe before responding? Noticed how it changes the dynamic of your interactions? I’m keen to know!

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This post was inspired by

Nedra Glover Tawwab

’s journaling prompt

Relationship Reciprocity

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Some reads I’ve enjoyed on Substack this week!

• I cry a lot by

  Jessy Easton
  
  It’s a warm hug on a tough day. Her words make you feel seen and understood, especially when she talks about crying over the little things that mean so much.

• Shopped by

  Richard Partridge
  
  Short, sweet, and humorous! Richard photographs shoppers & writes one-liners on shopping!

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It’s my birthday month! It means I’ll be writing a lot more. Not sure when I’ll be posting the extra posts. Probably Saturday!? I haven’t thought of it yet but thought I should let you guys know <3

We’ll keep up with the Wednesday posts, obviously! I’ve realised my mood is the best on Wednesdays, Fridays, & Saturdays. That’s strange though.

& I don’t get Monday morning blues anymore. Anyway, I’ll see you soon! I hope you have a great day!

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