The Secret to Getting Everything You Want?

Stop Gripping So Tight

I’ve been having a little heart-to-heart with my wallet. And, um… it’s been awkward. Because my wallet is basically like, “Girl, calm down. We can’t keep doing this.”

I’ll admit it — I love spending money. A new book? Yes, please. Cute ceramics? In the cart. Fancy coffee that costs as much as lunch? Take my money. But then I’ll look at my bank account and it’s just… crickets. Tumbleweed. Silence.

At the same time, I’ve been thinking a lot about abundance — not just having money, but feeling rich in life, in work, in creativity. And the weird thing? The more I chase after it, the further it seems to run. So I’ve been trying something new: spending less, but feeling more abundant. It’s really cool. Here’s what’s been working:

1. I stopped buying things I don’t actually want.
This sounds obvious, right? But you know how you’ll be scrolling and suddenly you NEED a pink mushroom-shaped lamp or a third striped shirt? I’ve been asking myself, “Do I really want this, or do I just want the little dopamine hit of buying it?” Nine times out of ten, it’s the dopamine. So I close the tab and move on.

2. I romanticize what I already own.
I swear, nothing has made me feel richer than lighting a candle I forgot I had and reading a book I never finished. I rearranged my room the other day, and suddenly it felt like a whole new space — no spending required. The more I fall in love with what I have, the less I crave more.

3. I create before I consume.
This one has been huge. Instead of starting my day scrolling Instagram or browsing shops, I try (emphasis on try) to write something, paint something, even just journal. When I’m focused on creating, I feel full. And when you feel full, you stop trying to fill yourself up with stuff.

4. I spend on what I value.
I’m not anti-spending — I just want my money to go toward things that make my life richer. A writing workshop? Worth it. Good skincare? A yes. Random fast fashion I’ll forget about in a week? Hard pass. When my spending aligns with my values, I feel way more abundant — because I’m investing in myself.

5. I act like there’s more where that came from.
Every time I spend money, I try to say (sometimes out loud), “There’s always more where that came from.” It sounds silly, but it works. When you act like you’re supported, you start to feel supported. And when you feel supported, you take bigger, bolder steps — which often leads to… more support. Funny how that works.

So here’s where I’m at: spending less, feeling like a queen. And the wildest part? Work opportunities have started popping up out of nowhere. Maybe because I finally stopped gripping so tight and let abundance flow. Or maybe because the universe loves a girl who’s got her finances (and her mindset) in order.

Either way, I’ll take it! 🧡

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